Jamie
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Engineering is difficult. We spend so much time studying. I'm over at a friend's room. It's a Friday night. Most people are having fun, and we're studying. He has wine coolers. We shouldn't drink them, but we are anyway. It's the dorm, but it's also Friday night. As long as we are studying, everything should be fine. We are getting closer to being done and are drifting into conversation, drifting away from studying. He is getting drunk, but this is not the first time I've been around drunk people. He's a friend. I can trust him. Everything will be fine. He's helped me so much over the past few months. I'm being stalked, and things are bad, but he is good. He is putting his arm around me, and I am feeling scared. I start to move away, and he gets angry. He is not an angry person. I am feeling confused. I try to reason with him. I try to talk to him. This only makes him worse. He is feeling me all over. His hands are hot and horrible. He is touching me everywhere, and my body is betraying me. He must like me and just not be able to tell me. This is his way of showing me. Maybe if I like him back everything will be okay. I put my arms around him, and I don't like it. I feel my insides recoiling. Every part of me says this is horrible, but I pretend it isn't. I'm shaking, and he thinks I'm excited. "I knew you wanted this as much as I did." It's not want but fear. I'm scared to death. I can't believe this is happening again. He stops and tells me that he can't believe I'm such a slut. He is telling me to get the hell out of his room and to never come back. He is saying that he cannot believe I would lead him on like this. He just invited me over to study, and look what I did is what he is saying. My clothes are basically on, and I am leaving. I feel horrible, but this is not as bad as last semester. I was not raped, I was only assaulted. This is okay. I don't need to tell anyone. No one would believe me anyway.
This happened in the past, but when I have flashbacks, it feels like it's happening all over again. I'm working through all this, but it's not easy, and I think the ones who should have to go through the healing process are the assholes who did this. I should not be broken, but I am. I will not be broken forever though, because I am finally deciding to heal.
I want to say I am sorry about my spelling and grammar right off the bat. I have never told any one this before. I have never had the guts and after a while I just forgot about it. Then I started getting these flashbacks, I didn’t want any one to touch me and I wasn't able to sleep. The worst part is that I didn’t believe myself I thought how cloud someone forget that. What made me believe was finally being able to put the pieces together. I would rather not say I was rape or not because I still can’t except that. I am 14. It happened when I was 5 then when I was eight. So here is my story.
When I was five almost six I went up to see my grandparents for my grandmother’s 50th b-day. I got out of the pool to eat and when packing my change of cloths I 4got to pack underwear so my parents said to go with out but I didn’t feel right because I had to go all night like that so my parents asked my grandfather to help convince me it was okay. They finally were able to. That night I stayed at my grandparent’s house. My cousin fell and broke her arm so my grandmother went to stay the night with her she was in a lot of pain. So it was just my grandfather and I. He is my step-grandfather. My grandparents got divorce when my mom was 11. I was so sunburned I couldn't sleep. So my grandfather said he something to put on it that would make the burn go away. So I went in his room to wait for him. When he got there he shut and lock the door and he turned off the light so all that was on was this stupid night-light thingy that they had.
He put on the bed and told me to do what he said and not to scream. He then told me to lie down so I did. Then he had me hold up my dress up and not to let go of for my dress and not say anything. He then started to rub me down there and then he started to pinch me down there and I started to cry. Then he took a one of those gloves and put them on one hand and he out the glove in Vaseline and stuck his hand inside of me. It hurt so much that I scream and grabbed his hand. HE told me I was a bad girl and I need to be punished. I tried to get up and run but he put me back on the bed but this time he put me on my stomached and put my face in the blanket. Then he beat me with his belt. Then I tried to turn over but he stopped me and said I wasn’t done being punished. He then took a pillowcase and stuck it in my mouth so I couldn’t scream and tied my wrists together and then to the bedpost. The whole time I fought but the more I fought the more he beat me with his be! lt. He then put his dick inside of my ass and fucked me. He then thought it would be funny to me eat me out. I was five and didn’t no what was going on all I new was it hurt and it hurt a lot. After he was done and he untied me and carried me into the shower. I thought he would leave me alone but the time we were in the shower he had his dick in my mouth and he told me to suck on it like I was sucking a baby bottle I said no and bit he scream and got his belt and beat me some more then after he was done beating me he made me suck his dick. He then got me dressed it was about one in the morning and then he said if I ever said anything that no would believe me and if any did he would kill my family and me. Then he gave me something to make me go to sleep. The next morning I could barely walk he just told my parents that I got sick that night and I would be fine so we went home that day (we lived in another state at the time). He wouldn’t even kiss my goodbye but he did ! threaten me again.
The Next time I saw him I was eight years. Then he just rubbed and fingered me because my cousin walked in it was dark so he didn’t see anything. In 1996 he got put in jail four 9 months because he did the same thing to my other two cousins. No one ever asked me if he did it to me so I thought no one cared.
I lived in the same house with him for three months after he got out of jail but he never touched me. He moved in September of 1997 and my grandmother just got the Dovice to go though. I still live in the house where it all happened and every time I step in the house I get the chills. I got angry at the world then my self and I started cutting my self when I was 13. I have trebalie anxiety attacks about everything. I have no self-esteem. I worry about everything. I am going to be in 10th grade in September and I am an honor student. I have friends but none that I trust. I don’t date. I panic whenever anyone mentions the word molested or rape. I want to start heeling but I don’t no how. If anyone has any suggestions or just want to chat e-mail me
I've been looking around a lot of rape sites lately... I'm 19 right now, and at the time, I was 16, and the one who did this to me was... 19, I believe. It involved a guy that I never really liked. He's a moron, he's manipulative, he's hurtful. He's the first--and only--person to ever call me a nigger, which I still haven't forgiven him for, even though it happened about four or five years ago. A stupid nigger, at that. He's the only person I can safely say that I hate. But I'm getting ahead of myself here, I haven't even gotten into why I hate him. First things first, I lost my virginity at fifteen to him. I don't know why I did. I guess it was just something I wanted to do at the time. I was young(er), and sex was everywhere. Well, it wasn't the last time we had sex. We did it a few times after that. Before I go on, I have to make this clear: We were NOT a couple. I truthfully couldn't stand the guy, but I felt sorry for him at the same time. He's pathetic, in my opinion. He doesn't have many friends, and I guess I figured I'd keep him around to give him one more person to talk to.
I talked to him on and off until a little more than two years ago. It was January 28, 1999. A Thursday night. I was talking to him on AOL, and we got into talking about him coming over. Partially so he could get the books he'd lent me, partially for talking to me to see why I'd been so depressed, and partially for... well... use your imagination. I told him to be here at around 11:30, a time when both Mom and Dad would be at work. So it was set--he left, I waited. He called before he got here.
During the time between when he left and called, I had been pacing the entire length of the apartment, thinking to myself, trying to decide whether or not I was doing the right thing. I know I wasn't--but hindsight is 20/20. Well, he said some stuff, I don't remember exactly what, because that wasn't important. But I told him that I didn't want to do anything, and I know he understood. He hesitated for a moment, then simply said "I'll see you when I get there" and hung up. Nothing else. Just *click*. I remember those words exactly they still send the same chill down my spine that they did at the moment I first heard them. So I got worried. When he got here, he went straight to my room. My little brother was home, asleep I couldn't start yelling at this guy who was in my room. My brother has a big mouth, and would most definitely tell Mom and Dad that there was a guy in my room when they weren't home. Anyway, I followed him into my room, and we started to talk. It wasn't bad until he pulled me back onto the bed and started rubbing me. It wasn't hard or forceful, and I did like it, but I protested. After all, I HAD told him that I didn't want to do anything, right? So I told him no, several times. They may have come out weak, but I know he heard me, because he responded. He didn't listen. He kept doing what he was doing, getting me aroused and pushing the right buttons. I couldn't see anymore--I mean that literally. I felt hot and dizzy, I couldn't will myself to move... And after a few minutes, his little plan worked I gave in, and we did wind up having sex that night.
I haven't quite been the same since. I feel betrayed, both by him and by myself. But mostly by myself. I told him he could come over, and I couldn't stop him, therefore I was to blame, right? Well, I sort of realize now that that isn't true, but back then I obssessed over it. I asked myself all the time, "Was I raped? Did he rape me?" I hated myself, cut myself, and kept to myself for a long time afterwards. And to top it off, I got a boyfriend shortly after the whole incident, and I constantly felt... something... I don't know what it was. But I cried in front of him all the time. For a long time, I was suicidal. I constantly thought about killing myself, slitting my wrists... but I could never do it.
I still get the urges to hurt myself, and lately, I've been so depressed over this. I haven't gotten any help yet. I've spoken to friends about it, but that's all. The boyfriend thing didn't work out--in fact, that breakup hurt me even more. I haven't been with anyone since. I have a problem with getting close to people. I don't know what to do anymore.
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Maile
i am a 26 year old female. the only thing i remember of my childhood is being hurt. my brother and i were sent to live with my uncle and aunt when I was four, he was six. Our uncle was in the military and wasn't home a lot. Our aunt found a lover in which she is married to today. he had beaten us and molested me. I thank god that I don't remember much, in fact the only time I remember is when my brother walked in. He had told our grandmother and she got us removed from them. We were sent to a foster home. When I was eight both my brother and I were adopted. We had hopes of a new life. Soon after, our "father" had started to touch me, and then he would tuck me in at night. We would go skinny dipping."our Parents" were from Germany and I guess this is normal there. Anyway he would touch me in the pool. I remember one day going into school, I was in third grade, and i was in such pain down there from the night before, that it hurt to sit down. I didn't have many friends,and to this day it seems it is getting harder to find good friends. He had done many things to me, took pictures, paid me to do all of this. I was his toy. I remember going over to a frriend of thiers house for a party and thier son had touched me. My "father" had seen it and later on he asked me about it.This abuse from my "father" had gone on til the day before my 15th birthday. That was when I promised myself that I wouldn't go through it again. I have been in abusive relationships, and been with people just so I wasn't alone. Right now I am truly in love with a man, who happens to be quite a bit older. He takes good care of me and he has helped me go on with my life. It is really hard, but at the moment all I want to do is get my story out there, at least some of it. It hurts to write this, but I know it will help. thanks for reading and you are not alnoe there are many people who have been hurt, we need to unite and be strong for happiness is ahead.
tina
The emotional and verbal abuse from my parents and brothers has been going on for as long as i can remember. The physical and sexual abuse started when i was ten, and has been going on for the past ten years. i am now 19.
At home i have always been the black sheep in the house. i practically took over bringing up my little sister, who is now 13. i was 6 when she arrived, and as soon as she was six months old, my mom left her in my care. When i went to school, my sis went to daycare in the mornings and i would pick her up there and walk her home after school. When she became the little girl pulling and yanking at everything (age 2) i was the one that got punished for it. i had to provide lunch in the afternoons for me (7), my two brothers, (9 and 3) and my sister(1). Then i had to clean the house, and have everything in place when my mother arrived at four o'clock. So i basically became a 7-year-old grownup.
If i cried when my parents punished me with a hiding or extra work, they always told me it's not necessary to cry, or they punished me more for crying. i usually got another hiding that sometimes left bruises on me. My mom once broke a wooden spoon on my brother, and since then never punished him hard, but always let it out on me. However, they never beat me up or seriously assaulted me.
Abuse by 2 so-called "friends" from school started when i was ten. One of them was a guy, the other one a girl. They were the same age as i. The first time he raped me was in the beginning of February 1992. We (me, he & she) went swimming at his house. Afterwards she said she'd dress in the bathroom, and he showed me where to dress. I went into the room, and as i was starting to get dressed he came in and started shoving my around. He began fondling me, and it was absolutely disgusting, he also licked me between the legs. He shoved me so that i fell, and the next thing i know he was on top of me. He pushed my legs apart, and when i cried out he told me to shut up and held his hand over my mouth. Then he raped me. As he was busy, she came in, but couldn't understand what was busy happening as we were young. She blamed me, and from then on i believed it was my fault.
The second time we were at her home with her birthday party in June that same year. In between, he just continued shoving me around very chance he got. I was sleeping over at her home, and i was going to her room to get a jersey from my backpack because it was winter here. As i was turning around he came into the room and closed the door. He shoved me into the bed so that my back got permanently damaged, and i still have back problems now, ten years later. He raped me again, and again i believed i did something wrong. I slept on the bed where he raped me that night.
After that he continued to abuse me at school, and shouted crude remarks to me and told stories about me. I never told my parents, HOW COULD I IF THEY WERE ALSO ABUSING ME? When spring came, we went swimming at her grandfather's home nearly everyday. If i didn't go it gave them reason to be mad at me the next time, and then they hurt me worse.
The first time we went to swim there, he came into the room as soon as we closed it and started undressing. I tried to get past them, but she locked the door and took the key. Then they both grabbed me. She held my hands above my head while he raped me. Sometimes they did this up to five or six times in one day's time. If she didn't hold my hands above my head, they would tie me to the bed and she'd torture me by hitting me with things, and then he'd rape me.
That kept on for about four years, then we went to different schools, and saw each other less often. Many times, if i started crying while he was raping me, he would threaten to suffocate me, and put his hands on my throat. so i just kept silent. They would grab me by my hair and drag me across the room by my hair. If he didn't come for one or other reason, she just kept on abusing me, never listening to my plea's. Lots of times, she would also "rape" me by sticking other things like pens or knitting needles or even bottles of roll-on inside of me, while i'm tied to a bed with my arms and legs spread as far apart as possible.
After a year of being in seperate schools, he came to my school. i almost never saw her again. i ignored him, because i thought he'd stop. Earlier he always said it was my fault for being naughty and she said it was because i wasn't a good friend. I always believed them.
On April 30, 1997, i got raped by a stranger behind a church hall. I was only 15. i had been attending exercize classes on Wednesdays, and i was sitting outside the hall afterwards tying my shoelaces. The guy came from behind and held a pistol to my head, then told me to do exactly what he said. I did. He lead me around the back of the church hall, and told me to lick his dick. I was too scared to move so i didn't do it, and he became mad. He raped me, beat me up, and then raped me anally also. Because i learned that, i just let him finish, and kept quiet the whole time. He left me just like that and i never saw him again.
After that the guy i knew started shoving me around and beating me as often as he saw me. He tore my ligaments in my wrist twice in a little more than a year's time, and kept on raping me every chance he got. I still didn't tell anyone, and hid the bruises any way i could, mostly by wearing long-sleeved clothing.
I worked for our school's security team, who locked and unlocked the school gates in the mornings and afternoons, or after school functions. We also looked after cars at school functions, but normally a guy and a girl worked together for safety purposes. One such night we were watching cars and the boy with me heard something at the other side of the schoolgrounds. He went to look, and in the time he was away, 'he' raped me again. When the other guy came back i was sitting against a tree, hurting and frightened beyond relief, so i got sent home.
In between there was other incidents as well, but i won't go into detail. Near our home there's an open piece of land with long grass, and he has raped me there a couple of times too.
In 1999 my parents went overseas for a month while i had to take care of my siblings. In that month he also raped me twice, and attacked me four or five times. Last year when i tried to defend myself, he broke my wrist.
The last time he raped me was June 16th, because i had to go and buy stuff for the holiday, as i am home alone. It happened so fast, but it was really painful. He forced anal and normal intercourse, which was quite disgusting for me.
I didn't write this out so that people can have sympathy for me, i only wrote it because it's a statement that i'm a survivor! I would like any correspondence whatsoever at mabodie@hotmail.com
If anyone out there agrees with me about not being a victim, but a survivor, feel free to e-mail me. Also people who have maybe learned something out of my story, feel free to e-mail me. I promise i will reply to every e-mail.
Hi (my name is not important) but here goes my story. I am 15
now. I was raped when I was 14. My best friend asked me to go to a
movie with her and then I was gonna stay the night at her house. We went
and seen Dr. Doolittle then her brother Rocky came and picked us up. He
was 19 at the time. Well he picked us up and dropped us off at her
house. There was no one home except us. Her dad didnt live there and her mom
was working. Well we started watching a movie when the phone rang and
it was my friends mother, she said that something had happened to one of
the workers at her work and that she wanted Angela (my best friend) to
go with her to the hospital and that she didnt know how long it would
be. Angela told me to stay home and wait for her brother to come home,
so I did. Her mom came and got her then her brother came home like 20
mins after they left. I told him what happened and he told me everything
would be okay. I was sitting in a chair and I had my legs crossed because I had on a short skirt. He was sitting right next to me and
started feeling on my legs. I told him to stop but he didnt. I stood up
and went to walk away from him and as I did he pulled me by my arm and
made me sit on his lap. He then put his hands between my legs and tried
to pull my undies off. I got up and started running and the only place
that was closest was the stairs. I ran up the stairs and ran in a room
and locked the door hoping that Angela would be home soon. I sat in a
corner not knowing what to do and relized that it was his room I ran
into. He had a key and unlocked the door. When he came in I was in the
corner with my hands over my face. He picked me up and threw me on the
bed. I tried to get up but he pulled me by my ankles closer to him and
ripped my undies off. I was still a virgin that time and when he shoved
into me I thought I was going to die. I tried and tried to fight him off
and I told him to stop so many times but he was so much bigger that there was nothing I could do. I dont know how long it was but when
he was done he told me not to tell or he would do it again only worse. I
went and took a bath and stayed in until Angela got home I didnt tell
her a thing that happened. A couple weeks passed by and I didnt get my
period, then I remembered he didnt use a condom. I was pregnent at the
age of 14. I had a baby girl at the age of 15 and I love her so much. I
dont regret at all having her. She is my life. But I dont know what im
going to tell her when I get older. (I was raped when I lost my
virginity and got pregnant, your father is my best friends brother). He knows
hes the father but I still havent told anyone what happened and
everyone thinks that i dont even know who the father is but I do bacause I
only had sex one time and it was against my will. Im living on my own now
with my beautiful baby girl who is only 6 months and I will get by. I
am a survivor. I hope people who read this will understant what happened to me and that they will learn to survive too.
